I just read a fantastic piece over at MamaMia.com.au.
There are so many people who tell you to enjoy everything about being a parent, cherish every moment. Boy, don’t they grow up so fast?! I can’t believe she is already one! Oh, he is at school already?! Don’t get me wrong. It is great, I love being a mumma, I love my baby girl so much. I wouldn’t trade the mummy life for anything.
Society expects women to be these SuperMums, look after the kids, have the dinner on the table at a reasonable hour, do all the washing, clean the house, keep everything ticking over like clockwork. But society also expects our women to be politicians, journalists, nurses, teachers, computer programmers – climbing the ladders of promotion and bettering themselves. How can we do both? If you ask any mum you know who works (full or part time, solo or with a partner) nearly all of them will say that the work/family balance is something they struggle with. If they don’t say it, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t true. We all want the best of both worlds. Equality! Equal opportunities, equal pay. Trust me, I believe these are great things, but at what cost. I don’t want to be a manager in any work field. I want to be a good nurse and an even better mum.
Being a nurse is a huge part of who I am, I didn’t train for 3 years for nothing! But it is not the only thing that defines me and it most certainly isn’t the most important.
We need society to start accepting that it is ok to choose to not climb those work ladders, that promotions and new roles aren’t the be all and end all of what we are here on this earth for. We need society to begin believing that raising a family is just as important, or more important than all that.
Being a mum or dad is not all sunshine, but our kids do light up our lives like you would never have thought that anything could.
The most important thing for me is that my little Bug grows up knowing that her mummy and daddy love her so much and that family life is more important.
I could waffle on further about this, or go back and better articulate what I have said. I have a lot to say on this if you want to ask further, but for now I have a baby girl who needs her mummy.